Behind the Scenes of an Intuitive Business

I just got the message that I need to strip my one-on-one work with clients down to the studs and rebuild my offers and how I share them from the ground up.

This is scary but exciting.

In this moment, mostly scary. Change often is. That liminal space between what you know, what you thought you were doing, and whatever will be next. It’s untethered, which is freeing but can also feel like free fall.

When you do etheric work that could be labeled something like channeling or psychic or mediumship or energy healing … there isn’t really a prescribed way of going about it. You have to practice, sometimes for years. You have to experiment and discover your unique gifts and flavor and who you can best support and serve. You have to see what people get out of your work, how it feels, how it supports them in their lives.

I learned I was an empath and a channel in 2013, when I was 35. I practiced for years, mostly on lovely blog readers (I’d been blogging since 2006) who were willing to be my guinea pigs. I started with written channeling and then moved into spoken channeling for individuals and later for groups. Then I began doing distance healings on friends - and clients, once I felt confident. I soon moved into recorded group energy healing. All self-taught, all based on experiments.

What I learned:

  • The way an energy healing works on one person is not the way it works on another person, because you receive the healing you need, not what I want to give you. (I learned that the hard way because the distance healing that put one person straight to sleep will activate a kundalini awakening in another, something she wasn’t expecting at 10 p.m.)

  • A two-hour group session, especially when it includes 1:1 work with each participant, is way too much for me. I would need to rest the entire next day.

  • My group healings seem to be as effective as the 1:1 healings. (Yay, channeling!)

  • If I do an intensive with someone, I definitely need to rest the next day. This is part of what the investment is - because it’s not just one day of my time, it’s two or three.

  • Twenty minutes of energy healing seems to be the sweet spot, both for results and my energy.

And I’m still learning.

Now that the “start over with the 1:1 healing work” message has come through, I’m entering yet another phase of experimentation.

As often as I’ve experimented in the past, it’s still an uncomfortable place to be. Especially when it means my entire business model might shift … again. (There are only so many website pages a person wants to write in her life, and I may be at my max.)

But I think there’s a lot of beauty in iteration and listening to the nudges that want to send us down new or at least slightly different paths. Let it be hard. Let it be scary. We can handle it. We can do hard things.

Lots of love,

Amber

If you’d like to be part of the experimentation process, I’m going to be taking on new clients at a lower price scale as I feel into this new iteration. If you’re interested, schedule a free call and we’ll talk about what you need and how I might be able to help.

Dedicated To Everyone Who Confuses The World

From refusing to enter the world (the female doctor trying to deliver me had to call in a burly dude with forceps to yank me out) to some serious sexual dysfunction in my 20s that Kaiser had no idea what to do with for years (that was a festival of terrible, let me tell you) to this morning when my doctor sat staring at me for twenty minutes with a deeply confused look on her face, I’ve been baffling western medicine since 1978.

Guys, this is how I became a hippie in the first place. No one else ever knew what to do with me.

Luckily, I've always been physically healthy. Sure, inside I was a giant ball of traumatized anxiety sponging up every emotion within a three mile radius, but I figured that was normal. Mental and emotional health is so deeply tricky because no one else can see the inside of our heads, and we've always lived there so don't know anything else.

While any number of arguments could be made both for and against my mental health, I feel much better and happier than I ever have in my life and I chalk it up to being a relentless - and one could even claim obnoxious - hippie. Playing with energy healing sorted me out nicely, which is how I accidentally fell into Hippie-As-Profession. When people ask me what I do, I tend to say something like, "I just want everyone to feel better."

Which is both true and also how I end up confusing every well-meaning person who's ever asked me what I do for a living.

Now I'm just laughing in my living room because OH THIS WORLD, YOU GUYS. Do any of us know what to do with it? Even a little?

Since we don't, I think we just keep looking for our own answers, our own truth, and chalk up the days where you get a message from your doctor saying, "I think you can take care of this with an $8 over-the-counter medication, let me know if that doesn't work" as a serious win.

Especially when you spend the rest of that day cheerfully driving down the coast with the top down, eating shepherd's pie in the window seat, and reading your book in the November sun.

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And if you come home to a delivery of your new Harry Potter sheets emblazoned with golden stars and owls - well that’s pretty much perfect.

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(Speaking of rampant hippie-ism and energy healing and being both confusing and confused, I did an energy healing on youtube related to all this today. :)

(Book pictured is Capital Gaines, which I loved.)